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When will I stop crying?

And the tears came and they came and they came……….

When an external event happens that causes a shift in your world, you also have an internal response.  With external change, you internally may experience a whirlwind of emotions.

Regardless of the circumstance, your first reaction may include feelings such as vulnerability, uncertainty, anxiety or fear.

It if is a negative change like divorce or death, you may experience emotions such as disbelief, anger, sadness or panic.

There are also changes that we look forward to such as a new relationship, a promotion, or a new baby in the family, that bring about more positive emotions such as expectancy, excitement and anticipation.

Whether the circumstance is voluntary or involuntary, positive or negative, we will have an internal response to our external event.

Would you believe that during this time your emotions takes up 85% of your energy!  I was shocked to hear how the body works toward our good. It supports us in all ways.  It tells our body to rest, feel the pain, and heal!!

I am with you on the Journey,

I know the possibilities on the other side.

Please leave your comments below. I’d love to support you during this journey!

By |August 13th, 2018|0 Comments|

Grief is good?

It may seem hard to read these words about grief being good.  That is because you are in grief right now.  It is good for you to be here so you can heal.  Grief does not mean you forget, only that you lessen the pain that you are experiencing.

With change comes loss, even if the change is good.  The loss must be grieved so you can leave the ‘old’ behind and move into the ‘new’ in a healthy way.

Most professionals agree that the grieving process consists of five stages that must be addressed in order for you to move on with your life.

The five stages are:

  • Denial – Not accepting that it’s really happening.
  • Bargaining – Believing that with negotiation or adjustment it can go back to the way it used to be.  (This applies more to the divorce than the death transition.)
  • Anger – Feeling that the situation is “unfair”.
  • Sadness – Feeling lost, alone, or vulnerable.
  • Acceptance – Realizing that things are not going back to the way they were, and it is time to move on.

When grieving a loss through death or divorce, you may move from one stage to the next and then back again.  This is a normal part of the process. Do NOT rush this process.  And trust that YOU will know when you have completed the grieving process.

You will know by a lightness in your spirit or a desire to re-engage in life again.

So when experiencing any change, do not resist the grieving process!!

Although at first it may not feel like grief is good, it does help you close one chapter of your life so you can more on to the next.

By |August 13th, 2018|0 Comments|

3 Exercises That Make Thriving Easier

When you have a loss in your life (especially when it comes to divorce), you experience grief which includes: denial, bargaining, anger, and depression.

You must give yourself time to work through – or experience – the emotions associated with your loss.

After all, you are grieving something – or someone – that was important to you.

Transition is the time when you are adjusting internally to the changes you are experiencing. You begin to prepare yourself for something new.

Farmers understand this time as the fallow time. The time when the fields are barren. During this time, the soil is renewing so that it will be prepared for the next crop.

Human beings need this fallow time – this idle time – to prepare for the new.

This is when you begin to spend more energy on the future than the past or even the present. Your focus shifts, your productivity increases and your morale increases.

It would be difficult to tell you how long this transition takes, but be assured it will all happen when it is time.

Here are 3 things to focus on over the next week to help you thrive during this time of change.

  1. Trust Yourself More. You are a competent individual who has successfully dealt with change in the past. You can do it again. Make a list of some of these life changes you have encountered in the past.
  2. Accept That Change Feels Awkward. You are going to feel uncomfortable. That’s okay. That’s how you will grow.
  3. Do Something That Makes You Feel In Control. This can be simple as cleaning out your closet or stepping up to learn a new computer skill.

So, between now and next time, can you do me a favor and try 1, 2 or all three of these and comment below what you noticed about yourself.

By |August 8th, 2018|0 Comments|

Change: Thriving Beyond Divorce

Change is a phenomena that occurs in nature and in life.

Without change we simply would cease to exist.

We have all survived changes, changes that we thought were bigger than we were able to overcome.

But I believe that you can do more than survive.

You can thrive with this change.

From the changes we have experienced in the past, we can not predict what life will look like over the next few years.

The world we know now will change. We will change.

So, how can we embrace – and thrive – during times such as these?

It is important to understand that change is an external event that requires you to make some kind of internal adjustment.

Even with just a little change, we have started the process.

We respond to change by moving through 3 phrases:

  1. Letting Go – Experiencing the ending of something that we knew
  2. Neutral Zone – The time between when you let go of something and become comfortable with the new. This is also named the transitional time
  3. Beginning Anew – The time when you know you have moved on. You have left the pain and grief behind and are making the necessary adjustments to move forward in a healthy way.

You must let go of the old – the dreams of yesterday with this special someone – and make a decision to learn new skills, behaviors, and even attitudes –and then move forward.

Even though you may not even know it, you are really quite good at making small changes every day.

The bigger changes like life challenging changes, may bring high times of grieve and pain. But, the pain is your road to healing.

I’d love to know how this article speaks to you, so please leave a comment below and let me know what support you’re needing on this journey of change so you can thrive beyond divorce!

By |August 8th, 2018|0 Comments|

How to Get the Job Done!

So what is your vision for your life. Michelle Hammons, High Performance Coach, and Joyce challenge us to get clarity around our vision first. Then manage the distractions that keep us from getting started on our future or keeping us from proceeding with our future. Great suggestions were shared.
By |August 1st, 2018|0 Comments|

What is your career looking like? Joella Bower

What is your career looking like? Joella Bower

Joella Bower, Marketing coach, shares her knowledge about choosing a career. Why create your own business? Is it the right thing to do? What is the freedom one experiences by becoming a entrapreneur in a job that enables you to live your passion. Is it possible. Great discussion for the person in transition and wanting some direction in her life.

By |August 1st, 2018|0 Comments|

Get Clients Everywhere Tells us How it Works

So what is your vision for your life. Michelle Hammons, High Performance Coach, and Joyce challenge us to get clarity around our vision first. Then manage the distractions that keep us from getting started on our future or keeping us from proceeding with our future. Great suggestions were shared.
By |August 1st, 2018|0 Comments|
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